Fear of Failure
This is possibly the biggest limitation. There have been many times where God has placed a vision in my heart but I didn’t pursue it because of fear of failing. I always tell myself a thousand and one reasons why I am not capable of doing it. Thank God I’m now learning to overcome the fear of failing. As Susan Jeffers wrote “feel the fear and do it anyway.” This is true.
I find it helpful to share my vision with people who are positive and encourage me to go for it. Share your dreams with dream builders and not dream killers. Some dreams never lift off the ground because of a lack of dream builders. Speak to the right friends and family members that’ll support you. There are people out there who are in desperate need of what you have. Bring it to the table and be a blessing to them.
Lack of Prayer
What helped me to overcome the fear of failing is prayer. Prayer empowers me to rise above the fear in my heart. The Bible says that,
The Spirit God gave us does not make us afraid. His Spirit is a source of power and love and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:7)
Reading a passage like that helps me to remember that I have the Spirit of God in me and I can do everything God puts in my heart. When I pray, I get this indescribable boldness to step out in faith. By the way, faith is different from positive thinking. That’s a topic for another day.
Lack of Research and Planning
Sometimes we jump into things without thorough research and planning. I have seen people go to University to do a course and later drop out saying, “it wasn’t what I thought it was.” For example, there are people who thought a Sport science degree is basically playing sports and doing some exercises. Do your research so that you don’t waste time, money, energy and valuable resources.
Lack of research can lead to unhealthy competition. Sometimes, because we don’t do our research to see what’s out there for us, we end up copying what others are doing. I have seen people do things because another person, whether a friend or colleague, has done it and got applauded so they feel the need to outdo them. This happens a lot especially for weddings. It’s okay to be inspired to undertake a similar project to a colleague but don’t do it because you want to outdo them. Do things with the right motive. You are unique so find your strengths and develop it. Don’t follow what everyone else is doing. If you follow the crowd, you’ll get lost in it. Be unique, identify your purpose and go for it!
Lack of Sacrifice
I can write a book on this subject because it is dear to my heart and I’ve seen countless of examples. As a student and preacher of the gospel, I have to deny myself a lot of things in order to be fully prepared for my speaking engagements while also meeting University deadlines and undertaking paid work. There are many parties and TV programmes I forgo because of my limited time so that I can focus on my assignments. I can spend up to 12 hours a day in the library to get some work done. I have seen students who spent more time partying than studying because that’s what their friends were doing and in the end they failed miserably.
I once read an article about a number of young men who became millionaires before they hit 30. It was reported that from ages 28 to 30, Bill Gates worked tirelessly and didn’t take a day off work and look at where he is today. Of course it’s good to give yourself breaks and outings but sometimes we need to sacrifice some of these breaks in order to reach our goals. Many people today want the prize without paying the price. If you want the prize you have to pay the price. Today, I spent time to read everyday to develop my Knowledge of the bible, and academic topics as well as issues in other spheres of life.
Giving Up Too Easily
There have been many projects I have undertaken and felt like giving up many times. There are some professions where you’re likely to have to deal with rejections such as professional football, acting and music e.g. X-factor among others. Talent, knowledge and skill are sometimes not enough; you need to be persistent. I know how it feels to fail or to be rejected in life (especially by a lady).
Few years ago, I was borderline depressed because nothing was working for me and all around me I saw my friends doing extremely well. I was very happy for them but it made me feel like I was behind in life. It’s such a horrible feeling.
Although it was not easy, my faith in God helped me to rise above rejection and disappointment. Just look at what God says about us,
I say this because I know the plans that I have for you.” This message is from the Lord. “I have good plans for you. I don’t plan to hurt you. I plan to give you hope and a good future. (Jeremiah 29:11)
So even in my frustration and disappointment, God still brings a good out of it. I have experienced this many times in my life. I remember in 2007, Hertfordshire University rejected me and it felt like it was the end of the world. I had to wait a whole year and eventually got into Surrey University. I had the time of my life at Surrey and made some lifelong friends. I loved every single minute at university. What seemed like a rejection, God turned it into rejoicing. Stay strong.
You will make it in Jesus name!